Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”

Exodus 20:12 (KJV)

My dad was a military man to the core.  From an early age I learned there’s nothing quite like growing up in a strict military family with a father who runs the house like a bootcamp.  The standards are high.  The work is hard.  The discipline is tough.  But when you pass a test, the rewards are great.  Sometimes the reward is as simple as a big smile that means, “Well done.”  Sometimes it’s as exciting as getting your first car.  Whether it was a smile or a car, just knowing I had my father’s approval was reward enough for me.

I lost my dad several years ago, but the legacy of love and character development he left behind will last me a lifetime.  He was a bright and articulate man who loved dialogue and debate.  He liked knowing how people think and challenging others to see if they could make a compelling case to support their position.  He asked deep, probing questions.  He listened intently to the answers.  He had little patience with people he perceived as lazy thinkers and no patience with those he perceived as lazy workers.  He rarely gave my brothers and me what we wanted the first time we asked.  Instead, he gave us rigorous tests to pass and tough challenges to meet.  He set the bar just high enough to stretch us beyond what we believed we could accomplish and just low enough for us to push through adversity and eventually win through tenacity.

Today I understand how God used my father and the family bootcamp he ran with great love to prepare me for a rich relationship with my heavenly Father.  My dad taught me to live a life of faith in his word and faithful obedience to his word while waiting on his promises.  Getting my first car is a perfect example.

I was 17, leaving home and headed to college.  I desperately wanted a car so, of course, I asked my father for one.  And, of course, he didn’t give it a moment of thought.  He rejected my request almost before I could get it out of my mouth.  Then he told me exactly what I needed to do to get a car and he promised to deliver on his end of the deal – as soon as I made it over his very high bar.

He gave me my homework and legwork and sent me on my way.  I had to do the research to find a good car within a certain price range, determine how much I needed for a down payment, get a job, save the down payment, commit to making my monthly car note and convince him I was responsible enough to follow through on my commitment.  That was the bar.  He promised that as soon as I made it over, he would sign for the car and pay for my insurance.  I was disappointed but excited.  He had armed me with everything I needed to know about the bar and given me the confidence that I could do it.

I was tenacious.  Within six months I had dotted every “i,” crossed every “t” and I was ready to go back to him to present my case.  I rehearsed my pitch then dialed his number.  I started talking before he could ask a single question and I presented a flawless case.  I reminded him of his promise and each element of the bar he had set for me, summarized each of my accomplishments, then waited for his response.  I was beaming with pride, knowing there was no way he could say no.  There was no wiggle room for him to debate with me because I had done everything he asked of me.  He had made me a sure promise and I had done my part with excellence.

When he finally spoke I discovered he was more proud of me than I was of myself.  Not only did he say yes, he was absolutely delighted to do so.  That night I got a huge smile from my dad and very soon thereafter I drove my brand new car off the lot.  For three months I made my car payments as promised.  The fourth month I got a surprise.  My parents had paid off my car.

My dad ran an amazing bootcamp that was filled with great rigor and great love.  I couldn’t have asked for more in a father.  He’s the man God used to help me develop the faith to believe in God’s promises, the discipline to work hard to follow God’s instructions, the tenacity to fight through adversity and the trust and patience to wait on God to deliver on every promise.  Most importantly, he’s the man who taught me what a precious gift it is to hear my Father say, “Well done.”

Copyright © 2012 Karen McNeil

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“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”

Exodus 20:12 (KJV)

As I honor and celebrate my mother this Mother’s Day, I am so thankful God took great care to give me the best of the best.  He could have given my mother to anyone, but He didn’t.  He gave her to me and for that I’m ever grateful.

There’s something about the beauty and complexity of mother-daughter relationships that only mothers and daughters can understand.  As our relationship has evolved through the years, God has given me the perspective of a jeweler examining a perfectly cut diamond.  From every angle it radiates a unique and magnificent facet of its beauty.  My mother is that diamond in my life.  She’s perfectly cut, flawless and rare.  She is an amazing woman with an ageless, timeless beauty.  Every year God turns her before my eyes and shines His light on a different facet of her beauty, allowing me to see her more clearly through His eyes.  And as God continues to reveal the gifts and hidden treasures He’s placed in me, I realize my mother is the one He’s used through the years to help me discover, cultivate and refine them.

My mom has been a truly wonderful mother and an amazing friend to me.  Through the years she and I have done it all together.  We’ve traveled the world together.  Laughed and cried together.  Shopped together.  Talked for hours on end on the phone together.  Gone to slumber parties together.  Raised puppies together.  Shared the joys and sorrows of life together.  We’ve encouraged each other through highs and lows and just enjoyed hanging out together.  I thank God for all the good times we’ve shared and I trust Him for many to come.

As Mother’s Day approaches each year, I find it increasingly challenging to choose the perfect gift for her.  I’ve run out of “stuff” to give her.  So this year I sent her chocolates along with a note explaining the thought behind the gift.  Everyday she’s rare and beautiful like a diamond.  And, everyday she’s savory like a box of chocolates.  Ever sweet with something different and delicious inside each and every piece.  I wrote her a list of some of the most precious things she’s taught me over the years about being a woman and a mother.  Second only to her unconditional love, those have been her most precious gifts to me.  I encouraged her to savor the thought of at least one thing on the list with each bite of chocolate.

I am who I am in great part because of who she is.  Today I thank God for my mother.  I thank my mother and I celebrate her.  She’s an amazing woman who taught me at a young age to enjoy traveling the world enjoying the finer things in life like a mother’s love, rare diamonds and exquisite chocolates.

Mom, you’re such a blessing to me and I dearly love you!  Happy Mother’s Day!

Copyright © 2012 Karen McNeil

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Anyone with a formula for success that consistently yields the desired results usually has a simple motto: “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”  The same applies to the devil.  He has an old trick he’s been using since the beginning of time and he hasn’t changed his formula.

Seduced Woman + Forbidden Fruit + Seduced Man = Destruction

It’s a proven formula that has consistently yielded victory after victory for the devil beginning in the garden of Eden. The devil seduced Eve with a little forbidden fruit.  Eve seduced Adam with the same. Together they derailed their own lives and God’s plan for mankind. As a consequence, they paid the penalty for their sin.

God threw them out of His garden.  Eve and every woman after her paid the price of sorrow and painful labor in childbirth.  Adam and every man after him got a life of sweat and hard labor toiling in the dirt to provide for themselves and their families. The greatest price, however, was paid by their children. Cain murdered Abel. God cursed Cain. And, every generation of their children since Cain and Abel has paid the price for Adam and Eve’s original sin. All for a little taste of forbidden fruit. (Genesis 3; Genesis 4)

Another classic example is found in the story of Samson and Delilah. Samson was a man of supernatural strength and the source of his strength was a well-kept secret. Just as the devil used Eve to seduce Adam into opening his mouth to eat the forbidden fruit, he used Delilah to seduce Samson into opening his mouth to reveal his secret.

Not only did Delilah seduce Samson, she brazenly made her intentions perfectly clear to him.  Delilah demonstrated three times that she wanted to learn the secret of Samson’s strength for one reason. She planned to bind him and turn him over to his enemies to destroy him.

Like many men, Samson believed he could play with the devil and get out of the game before the devil won, so he continued eating Delilah’s fruit.  Samson won the first three rounds. Then he discovered the first three rounds were just a set up for the fourth and final round – which he lost.

During the fourth round Delilah spoon fed Samson serving after serving of guilt. She manipulated him, crying and whining about him not loving her enough to give her what she wanted.  Finally, she won. She wore him down and enticed him into revealing his secret. That’s when the game ended. Delilah held Samson tenderly in her arms, gently rocked him to sleep, then she called in his enemies to destroy him.  While he lay sleeping with his head still nestled on her knees, the devil slipped in and cut off his hair.

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When Samson realized that his enemies were upon him, he flexed his bulging muscles only to discover that his strength was gone. God was no longer with him. His enemies gouged out his eyes, threw him in prison and put him in shackles. When Samson’s hair grew back and his strength returned, the devil paraded him in front of all his enemies to entertain the people.  That was Samson’s final performance and it was a performance that brought the house down.  Samson prayed for God to once again give him supernatural strength and so He did.  Then, with all his might Samson toppled the pillars of the house, destroying the house and killing all that were in it including himself. (Judges 16)

Samson learned a sobering lesson that most men who sleep with the devil eventually learn.  Close your eyes to sleep with a beautiful devil and eventually you will open them to find yourself stripped down to nothing with the real devil laughing at your destruction.

While many men gladly eat the fruit hand-fed to them by seductresses the devil sends into their lives, not every man with a great call on his life takes the bait. Wise men of God have taken the time to examine how God established the life outcomes of King Ahasuerus and King Ahab.

KMA_Sleeping_Haughty Queen.jpg When King Ahasuerus sent for his beautiful wife Vashti to come greet the honored guests at his banquet, she snubbed him and his guests and publicly humiliated him before every man in his company.  Thoroughly ashamed, he sought council from his trusted advisers about how to deal with the queen.

The king’s advisers cautioned him that Vashti’s brazen disregard for his authority, his reputation and her duty set a wholly unacceptable example for every other woman in the kingdom.  Vashti’s actions had introduced a rebellious cancer into the kingdom. The king’s advisors feared that cancer would spread from the palace to their wives and into their homes. They warned the king that if he failed to properly address the issues in his own home, he would undermine the authority and ability of every other man in the kingdom to establish proper order in their homes.  There was clear consensus. The king’s advisors offered him a solution that he had the wisdom to readily accept.

Reject the rebellion and return the untouched platter of forbidden fruit to the queen. Let Vashti know that she is forever cut off from the king’s presence. Issue a sealed decree throughout the kingdom inviting all the most desirable virgins to be considered for the queen’s throne and the king’s pleasure. Then, hand over Vashti’s throne and her royal estate to a woman better than she.

Vashti’s ill-advised display of pride and rebellion brought her down to nothingness before the entire kingdom.  Soon thereafter, the lovely Esther was sitting on her new throne enjoying all of life’s pleasures with the king along with the former queen’s royal estate.  Together, King Ahasuerus and Queen Esther saved the Jews and Esther is still the Bible’s most celebrated queen. (Esther 1; Esther 2; Esther 9)

King Ahab, on the other hand, had no greater pleasure than being hand fed a lavish diet of forbidden fruit served to him by his wife, Jezebel.  She delighted in seducing him and hand-walking him down a path of great sin.  Together they committed flagrant offenses against the Lord, most of which were master-mind by Jezebel.  Finally, Ahab allowed Jezebel to seduce him into committing the offense that ended their reign and God sent a prophet to deliver the death sentence that sealed their fate.  God faithfully promised that not only would they both die, but dogs would pick their bones clean and lick their blood from the ground.  And so it was.  (1 Kings 21)

As Christians we must recognize that while Ahab and his beloved Jezebel are dead and gone, her spirit is still celebrated, alive and well.  From the beginning of time the devil has used the Jezebel spirit to topple kings and kingdoms. Today he is using it more so than ever to topple Christian marriages, homes, and churches.

Interestingly, the woman is rarely the primary target.  She’s simply the bait the devil uses to get to the head of the house for the purpose of destroying the man, the house, and, in the case of pastors, the church. That is why God holds men, and especially pastors, accountable for their response to the manipulations and seductions that come their way including from their wives.

Too many Christians seem unaware that there is a hefty price to pay for falling prey to the Jezebel spirit. And so, God is sending an urgent reminder from Revelation 2 to His Church. It says:

I know thy works, and charity, and service, and faith, and thy patience, and thy works; and the last to be more than the first.

Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.

And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.

Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.

And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

But unto you I say, and unto the rest in Thyatira, as many as have not this doctrine, and which have not known the depths of Satan, as they speak; I will put upon you none other burden.

But that which ye have already hold fast till I come.

And he that overcometh, and keepeth my works unto the end, to him will I give power over the nations:

And he shall rule them with a rod of iron; as the vessels of a potter shall they be broken to shivers: even as I received of my Father.

And I will give him the morning star.

He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches.

(Revelation 2:18-29)

There is no question that women have power. God gives it to us to help build kingdoms. The devil gives women his power, too, to help destroy them. The devil’s power, like most seductive lotions and potions, is branded under many fancy names because it’s extremely challenging to market under generic names.  The generic names are witchcraft and rebellion and they come with a little black book of simple, well-worn tricks.

The tricks are simple because the work is simple. Anyone can do it. Eve proved it. Delilah proved it. Jezebel proved it. The devil will use anyone from a queen to an alley cat as long as they stick to the formula.  What he doesn’t tell the women is that when he’s finished using them to destroy men, he will turn on them like the snake that he is and destroy them, too. He leaves women cursed, broken, and shattered in the land of the living. Worse yet, he leaves them condemned to eternal damnation in the lake of fire where they will share company with the men they helped to destroy.

KMA_Sleeping_Dove SwordGod’s work, on the other hand, is considerably more challenging, but the rewards are great. There’s no fancy branding for His power.  It’s produced under its generic name so everyone knows exactly what it is. It’s Holy Ghost power. (Acts 1:8)  There are no substitutions and there is nothing comparable. It detonates with a force exponentially greater than an atomic bomb.

Women who operate in the Spirit of Jesus Christ have Holy Ghost power over every trick, trap and deception of the devil and everyone he uses to do his bidding.  We have the power to move seemingly immovable mountains.  We have the power to destroy yokes, tear down every stronghold that exalts itself against the kingdom of God, set every captive free and build God’s kingdom.  We have the power to open blind eyes and pray men of God into greatness.  That’s why our little black book is thick and complex.  It’s called a Bible and everything we need to know is in it.

God’s work can be absolutely grueling. Quite frankly, not every woman is equipped for it because not every woman is willing to follow the manual.  It takes women of purpose, power and substance to do God’s work.  That’s why He examines all of us, then weeds out those who are unfit for duty.  Those who remain faithfully in His service are rewarded with an abundant life in the land of the living and eternal life in heaven to share the company of wise men and kings.

Let’s be clear. The question isn’t whether we, as women, have power over the human frailties of men.  Of course, we do – just as men have power over the human frailties of women.  The real question is whether we’re manipulating the power of witchcraft and rebellion to lure men away from God or wielding the sword of the Spirit and the power of the Holy Ghost to strengthen them so they can be who God has called them to be.

It is time for change in the house of God. We are losing too many men, women, and children to destruction masterfully orchestrated by the spirit of Jezebel. It is time for Christian men to open their eyes and stop falling for the oldest tricks in the devil’s book. It is time for Christian women to spend time in careful and prayerful self-examination to ensure that we are not the ones the devil is using. It’s time for all of us to be Holy Ghost power players in the very real war the devil is waging against the kingdom of God.

Copyright © 2012 Karen McNeil

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Daily we are awakened to enjoy the majesty and splendor of God’s creations, yet the earth is filled with those who have somehow concluded there is no God.  Instead, they have convinced themselves that all of creation simply “is.”

Man who was created in the image of God,

the heavens and the earth,

the birds of the air,

all that inhabits the deep of the waters beneath,

and all that lives and breathes on the face of the earth

simply evolved from nothingness.

No rhyme.  No reason.  No Master.  No master plan.  No God.

This is a map of a 3,700 acre master planned community.

It includes an assortment of homes, luxury amenities, award-winning schools and a multitude of shopping options.  What’s so special about this community?  Nothing.  It’s simply an illustration that raises an interesting question.

Who could walk through a master-planned community and not recognize the absurdity of believing it could have come into existence without the involvement of thinking human beings to conceive it, plan it and orchestrate its development?  Yet daily people walk the earth, encounter all its glory and still believe all of creation came into existence without a Master or a master plan.  Amazing!

Be it known to all – there is a God.  This is what the Bible says about Him:

In the year that king Uzziah died I saw also the LORD sitting upon a throne, high and lifted up, and his train filled the temple.  Above it stood the seraphims: each one had six wings; with twain he covered his face, and with twain he covered his feet, and with twain he did fly.  And one cried unto another, and said, Holy, holy, holy, is the LORD of hosts: the whole earth is full of his glory.   And the posts of the door moved at the voice of him that cried, and the house was filled with smoke.   Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts. (Isaiah 6:1-5)

The God we serve is high and lifted up.  He is majestic.  He is glorious.  He is worthy of honor and praise.  The whole earth is full of His glory.  There is quite simply no excuse for failing to see God.  He is the Master with a master plan.  The Bible is God’s master plan and in it Romans 1:18-32 clearly outlines how He intends to deal with those who insist on perpetuating the lie that He does not exist.

God is not invisible.  We’ll see Him everywhere when we simply open our eyes and look.  Where have you seen God in your life today?

Copyright © 2012 Karen McNeil

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